Are you ready to move forward in life? What if we spent time intentionally thinking about how to really use life’s lessons?
I was thinking the other day about a few things I learned the hard way...
Trying to make sure everyone is happy will exhaust you emotionally and eventually you will loose yourself.
Exercise doesn’t just get rid of the effects of eating too much sugar and processed foods, using harmful ingredients in your home and toxic emotions.
Unchecked emotions can lead to illness.
Not all essential oils are created equal.
My plans are not His plans.
God’s power is made perfect in my weakness.
Eating healthy foods but still using harmful ingredients daily in my home and on my skin can still wreck my body.
Feelings are not what I should be using to create action. God is my truth. His word is a lamp to my feet.
When you find your belief, your light and lean into your faith; some will ridicule you, judge you and try to make you feel like it’s not possible to have this in your life.
Things I wished I known sooner...
Joy is not a feeling it’s a state of heart and mind. You can still be full of joy and content in any circumstance while still having your other feelings.
Love and kindness is what I need to show up with daily. My feelings do not get to dictate my behaviors.
I don’t need to prove myself to anyone. God sees me daily and knows where my heart is.
Forgiveness is worth doing every time.
God gives me grace daily and there’s freedom in knowing Him completely.
Communication with love and respect is key to moving forward in relationships.
The power of high quality essential oils.
The power of high quality supplements.
How to heal my body from the inside.
Food IS medicine. I’m living proof of this.
How the systems of my body work and what I need to do to actually support them.
Creating boundaries is not wrong. It’s necessary for healthy relationships.
I’m thankful for the knowledge I’m gaining and the support of a community to move forward with a lifestyle that is for the now and the future.
So what about you? What have you learned the hard way? What do you wish you had known sooner?
How to Set New Year's Goals that are Attainable
I'm all for starting the New Year with excitement and thinking about dreams and goals. I have my planner ready to go come January 1st. I love to dream, create plans, goal set and get a fresh start but what I have learned in the last few years is they don't need to start right at the beginning of January. Stay with me a while and let me fill you in on why I don't feel like this has benefited me from past experience. First of all, this should give you some relief but if you are good with starting new goals and creating new habits on January 1st by all means go for it! I'm certainly not telling you that you shouldn't. I am going to tell you that research shows that only about 8% of people keep their New Year's resolutions and about 80% fail. This usually has to do with unrealistic expectations. That makes sense right!
No More New Year's Resolutions
I haven't made resolutions in years. After doing this and realizing I was setting myself up for failure over and over again; I decided in December to fully be present and come January start thinking about my goals for the coming year. These goals create action that leads to healthy habits that stick. It's one of the best decisions ever. All through December I have so much inspiration and I just write it down. Then the first week of January I start thinking about what goals would be good to work on throughout the year. I love this week. I can fully recover from the holiday. I can slowly ease into the next year that I know is before me. It refreshes me and does not make me feel overwhelmed coming out of the holiday season. The New Year is for fresh starts not stressful ones in my opinion.
Setting SMART Goals
So how do you know what goals you should start working on? Before I even start to speak my goals or write them down, I take them to the Lord. This is where my wisdom comes from and if my goals are not aligned with Him; then they are not worth pursuing. He places my dreams within me and I have to be the one to set the goals to achieve them but only with Him.
Once I have prayed and used the Word for inspiration, I make SMART goals. I did not make this clever acronym up but I sure do think it's helpful. Google it and you will find all kinds of framework for creating goals this way. My goals also have to match up to my priorities. Read more about how I use my priorities to make my plans here.
Be specific on what you want to achieve. The more you narrow it down, the better you will be able to see what actions you need to take.
What evidence will prove you are making progress toward your goal?
Are your goals attainable? Did you set goals that you can reasonably achieve?
Do your goals align with your values and beliefs?
What is your goal time-frame? When you do you want to achieve your goal?
Defining your goals this way helps you see what steps you take to achieve your goals. Using the SMART goal framework sets boundaries and defines the steps you’ll need to take, resources necessary to get there and milestones that indicate progress along the way. With SMART goals, you’re more likely to achieve your goal efficiently and effectively.
I feel like goals are different from resolutions because what I used to do was claim this big, unattainable resolution that overwhelmed me and then I would just throw in the towel. When I started slowly setting goals and intentionally thinking about what would align with my beliefs in the New Year, success started coming. The other key for me was waiting until I had a moment to come out of the holiday and just acclimate to the new season I was moving into, especially if there was planning involved for my goal. I saw myself achieving them successfully because it was not rushed and forced.
The Most Important Part of Going After my Goals
Once I have set my goals, I have 3 very important beliefs that I use to guide me along the way:
I seek God's wisdom often as I take action and work towards my goals. His ways are better than mine. His wisdom leads me to peace.
I take action in steps of faith whether they are big or small.
I trust God to give me grace along the way. I know I'm going to mess up but when I point my goals back to Him, I know I'm not going to give up. I'm going to ask Him for strength and wisdom. I know that how I achieve my goals isn't as important as why! I know that God gives me the "why" and that intuition I get to chase after a goal so I'm going to get back up and keep going.
So what about you? How do you feel about all this?
Do you feel like the holiday season comes and goes with a whirlwind; leaving you exhausted and wishing for a do-over. You do not have to feel that way. Come read about how you can slow down and enjoy the holiday season this year.Read more...
This is the first post in a series all about creating harmony in your home with routines and rhythms. I wanted to create this for you because one of the biggest concerns I hear from moms all the time is that they do not know how to manage their day. They feel overwhelmed by all the tasks they have to get done and if they work from home or homeschool then they are not even sure how to get it all in. Not to mention having time to do something for yourself.
Do you ever feel like this? Do you feel like your life is out of harmony? I didn't use the word balance here because this is near impossible in my opinion. I do believe you can create harmony in your home and that is just what I have worked over the years to create.
For years I was overwhelmed, consumed by the daily tasks and not knowing how to manage my time. The days felt unorganized and by the end of it I was exhausted mentally and physically. Does any of this sound familiar to you? Maybe you aren't overwhelmed and you are managing your time but you don't have any time left for yourself or the things that you love to do. I figured out a way to get my daily tasks done, work from home, homeschool and still have time for myself.
Priorities are Where it's At!
It all started with me asking myself some questions. I believe the first step to creating harmony is figuring out your priorities. Grab yourself a tea, coffee or one of my recipes for a yum, caffeine free drink here and ask yourself what is most important to you in life. Think big picture first. Pick at least 5 priorities that you are not willing to negotiate. List those out on a piece of paper in order of importance with some space between each one.
Some question you might ask yourself are:
What do I want the focus of my day to be around?
Who do I want to serve daily?
What can I do each day that will bring my home joy?
How do I want to feel each day?
Once you have gotten your 5 priorities listed out, then you can begin to fill in some of the key goals for each one that will help you stay focused on that each day. For example, if one of your priorities is family, what are you going to do for your family that keeps this in check? I homeschool so that would go under this category. Make sense? Maybe wellness is one of your top priorities right now, so you write down cook healthy meals.
It's not enough to just write down your top 5 priorities. That will leave you still feeling uncertain about what you need to be doing each day to stay focused on these and keep them in check. You can get as specific as you want but what I wouldn't do is write down so many goals that you are right back where you started feeling like you will not be able to harmonize it all.
I will tell you mine but not so that you can compare or feel like these have to be yours. I will share mine because having an example has always helped me move forward and brainstorm my ideas.
Some of my goals under these are time with the Lord and prayer, homeschooling, self-care, cooking healthy meals, exercise, dancing and going on dates with my hubby.
Your goals do not have to happen everyday but there will be some that do and these become your ultimate non-negotiables. In time you will find that the ones that seem to be extra will begin to fall into harmony with your routines and rhythms.
So get started with this today. I know it's going to make a difference in how you see your day first of all. This is the first step to creating harmony in your home and a rhythm that works for you and not the other way around.
Get my printable priorities print out here. Are you going to start working on this today? Are you ready to start getting your day back?
Do you want to come hang out with some other moms working toward joy and releasing the overwhelm?